Managing Your Emotions with Essential Oils

Mood Management with essential oils, doterra, HOO Happiness

I treat this online space like it is my diary.

The type of diary you hide under your bed with a lock and key.

Except that it is not.
It is public.
Alive and online.
For everyone to read.

Sometimes people think I am looking for pity or attention.
Or how dare I put it all on my social accounts and my blog.
It is too personal.

That is not how I see it.

Instead I see this as a safe space.

A place where anyone can come to read, learn, reflect and maybe…. just maybe…. find something here that shows them they are not alone.
You are not alone.
I am not alone.
And I know in my heart of hearts that my story will resonate with someone.

I found myself in the bathroom again.

Crouched in the corner.

Door closed.

Sobbing into my hands.

Hoping the tv in the living room was loud enough not to bring attention to me.

Most days I am alone.

My son is at school and my husband is at work.

I can lay in my bed.

All day.

Soak the pillow case.

Then get up when my alarm goes off.

The bells. Chiming. So loudly. Beside me.

Reminding me there is another life counting on me.

I have to pick him up.

I go through the motions.

How was your day.

What do you want for dinner.

Mindlessly playing lego.

My attention elsewhere.

The ache.

The longing.

Craving to be back in my bed, curled away.

Tucked away and hidden from the world.

I should feel grateful.


I should be so happy.

I have it all.

A beautiful healthy boy who is fun and kind hearted.

A husband.

A life abroad.

But all I can see if what I don’t have.

Who is there.

Where I am not living.

I lived in this depressive state for so long.

It sucked me in.

Sucked me down.

It leaked into my marriage.

Suffocated my parenting skills.

Weakened my health.

Broke my heart.

It took me a really long time to see to what was happening.

I had no idea what depression was.

How riddling anxiety could be.

It was never part of life my equation before.

It wasn’t until my friend gently nudged me.

I needed to find my way back.

She reminded me that I have health tools in my home already.

I had essential oils and I wasn’t even using them.

Not in my daily life. Not in the diffuser. Not for depression. Not for anything.

I started to pick them up.

Smell them again.

Put them in the diffuser.

Fall back in love with my oils.

One night while lying in bed I picked up my books.

My bibles. My resources. My go to’s.

I did some reading. Some digging.

I learned the oils I needed to support me to help lift me out of the fog.

To pull me out of the hole.

I put it in my pocket and carried it everywhere.

I didn’t think it was working.

Until about the two week mark when suddenly it felt like the shutters opened and the sun came in.

I felt lighter.

There were less tears.

Less fighting.

More engagement.

It took about a month and half for me to really pull myself out of the ground.

And if I am being honest I have to work on myself all of the time to ensure I do not end up back there.

I can feel it creep over me.

It can suck me back in.

But now it lasts days. Not weeks. Not months. Not years.

I am proactive with what I do to keep the dark at bay. And I have awesome protocols now in place for when the dark creeps in too much.

Deep Dark Hole Emotional Support Roller Bottle Blend:

This blend is what you would use if you are deep down in the dark hole.
Apply this every hour or two, every single day until you feel the sun sneak back it.
Once you see the sun again keep applying until you feel the darkness completely lift.

In a 10ml rollerbottle add:

  • 7 drops of lavender

  • 7 drops of Serenity Calming Blend

  • 7 drops of Balance Grounding Blend

  • 7 drops of Wild Orange

  • Top the rest with Fractionated Coconut Oil. Shake well. Let rest for 24 hours.

    Apply often every single day until darkness is completely lifted.

Emotional Cleansing Roller Bottle Blend:

This blend is for when you are under the weather or you feel like the darkness my be creeping in on you.

In a 10ml rollerbottle add:

  • 5 drops of Balance Grounding Blend

  • 5 drops of Geranium

  • 5 drops of Lavender

  • 5 drops of Patchouli

  • 5 drops of Serenity Grounding Blend

Essential Oils for Turning Specific Negative feelings + Moods into Positive Ones:

Buoyant, Adaptable, Optimistic: (Use these oils if you are feeling sad, hopeless, resigned, in despair, pessimistic)

  • Joyful Blend

  • Frankincense

  • Melissa

  • Any citrus oil

Determination & Passion:(Use these oils if you are feeling lack of productivity or initiative, lethargic)

  • Wild Orange

  • Lime

  • Ginger

  • Lemongrass

  • Vetiver

  • Peppermint

Focus: (Use these oils if you are feeling unmotivated, lack of drive or focus, scattered)

  • Focus Blend

  • Tension Blend

  • Peppermint

  • Vetiver & Lavender

  • Lemongrass

  • Clove

  • Frankincense with Wild Orange and/or Peppermint

Energize: (Use these oils if you are feeling if you are feeling low on energize, fatigued or wiped out) 

  • Cypress

  • Frankincense

  • Invigorating Blend

  • Tension Blend

  • Basil

  • Rosemary

Quiet the Mind: (Use these oils if you are feeling anxious, restless, overactive mind or need to find peace and pause)

  • Grounding Blend

  • Calming Blend

  • Clary Calm

  • Frankincense

Mood Boosting Diffuser Blends:

Relaxing Blend

  • 2 drops Vetiver

  • 2 drops Lavender

  • 2 drops Sandalwood

  • 2 drops Ylang Ylang

Harmonizing Blend

  • 2 drops Patchouli

  • 2 drops White Fir

  • 2 drops Lavender

Vitalizing Blend

  • 2 drops Frankincense

  • 2 drops Peppermint

  • 2 drops Wild Orange

  • 2 drops Lemon

I’ve Got this Blend

  • 2 drops Clary Sage

  • 2 drops Petigrain

  • 2 drops Peppermint

  • 2 drops Ylang Ylang

If we are living in the deep dark hole it can feel like the end.

It can feel hopeless.

I often asked myself what the point was.

But it is not the end.

It can very well be the beginning.

A tuning in to your head and your heart, of being true to yourself.

Of lifting that stigma and erasing the negative.

For me using my oils was a way for me to anchor back into my own life.

To fall back in love with the little brown bottles that gave me so much hope and love.

It was using that life line I was thrown.

Maybe essential oils are not your answer.

But maybe, just maybe, they are the thing that pulls you out of the hole and shows you a whole new way.

But no matter what, if you need help, reach out.

You are not alone.

Not now.

Not ever.

Love, hugs and positive oily vibes.

Love Ange